What and where is Menagerie?

Menagerie is is a men’s sex party dedicated to anal fisting.  It is held at a private location in south Seattle.  We are a short walking distance from bus routes, 20 minutes from light rail.

A “menagerie” is a collection of beasts and exotic animals, many of which make loud and exotic noises.  So do some guys engaged in fisting and other extreme sex/BDSM activities.  (Your host, especially.)

Who is behind the Menagerie Fisting Parties?  When is the next one?

Jim and Ken are your hosts, along with others who help make the parties run.  Jim can be found at online sites as either MenagerieFF (most sites) or mykindofrain (AssPig).

Menagerie parties are held every few months, 4–6 parties a year.  The date varies depending on the hosts’ schedules, but are roughly quarterly.  There is always one at the end of August.

What will happen at the party?

Fisting, of course.  (Male-to-male anal fisting, to be specific.  This is a men’s sex party.)

Most guys arrive, change into whatever gear they want for play (naked is fine, too), socialize a bit, and play when they want to.  If you need specific mentoring or the like, just ask and we will find you an appropriate person to help with things.

Doors open at 8:00 pm (unless the start time for a specific party is different)
Please arrive by 9:30 pm
Party goes to 1:00 am or so

How much does it cost?

The “Fist Kitty” donation jar will be out, and we encourage you to make a donation (recommend $10–20).  Your donations help to cover the costs and work attached to doing the parties.

If you prefer, though, bring party supplies or snacks or beverages to share.

How do I get an invite?

Send an email to redhanky@soundskinky.com.  Include your name, a facepic, and your profile name at the app/site of your choosing, so we can look you up.  Ask any questions you might have, too.

Invites are sent by e-mail from the above address (so whitelist it in your spam filter, if needed).  We don’t send invites or accept RSVPs via text, phone call, Facebook Messenger, Facebook events, AssPig clubs, Evite, or carrier pigeon.

Even if you have been to parties here before, you need to RSVP.  Please don’t just show up without an invite and an RSVP.

Who gets to attend?   How do invites work?

1. First, get on the invite list
2. Look for an email invite for a given party, a couple weeks before the party, and fill out the Google Form linked in the email
3. A few days before the party, look for a second email which has the address and other details

You must RSVP for the party to attend.  We have hard limits on the number of attendees, so just showing up is bad form.

Attendance is typically about 28–32 guys.  It’s basically first come/first served.

Will there be a wait list?

If RSVPs exceed the number of people the location can handle, we will start a wait list and notify you if you are on it.

There are always a handful (heh) of cancellations, so we will notify guys by e-mail if we can bring them off the wait list.  Most cancels occur in the last couple days, so you could get notified up to mid-afternoon on the day of the party, which we know can be too short of notice for some of you.

Do I need to RSVP if I can’t attend?

It is highly recommended.   If you don’t RSVP a few times in a row, we probably have the wrong email address for you — or the invites are going to your spam folder — so e eventually remove people who don’t reply at all.

What if my schedule is uncertain?  What if I have to cancel?

You want to attend, but you won’t know for sure if you can until a couple days before the party?  If you think you likely will be able to attend, go ahead and RSVP as attending and then cancel if you won’t be able to attend after all.  Yes, you may be forcing someone else onto the wait list, but if you don’t, you’ll be the one unable to attend.

On the other hand, there will always be another party if you can’t make this one.

Cancelling is absolutely not a problem.  Doesn’t matter if you got sick, or you had to go out of town, or family showed up, or you got cold feet, or you just decided to not come.  But the important thing is to let us know you won’t be attending — preferably by e-mail a few days out, if you can, so guys can be brought off the Wait List.  But even a Facebook message or a text an hour before the party is fine, better than ghosting.

Don’t be a Ghost.  That’s rude, and it can affect your future invites.

Can I see a list of who is coming?

No.  The invite list is private.

However, if you want to know if someone specific — a buddy, an ex, etc. — is on the invite list or has said they are coming, that I will share.

Can I bring a friend?

So long as he is also into fisting and so long as there is space, sure.  (Note: we do have an attendance limit, so don’t just show up with a buddy in tow.  Make sure there is space.)

Your buddy will need to fill outn the Google Form for the party, and will need to arrive and leave with you — he is your guest, your responsibility.

What kind of guys attend?  Age range, body type, race?

We have attendees from their early 20s to their early 70s.   A wide range of body types and races are represented.

Ultimately, who RSVPs first is who attends.

Can trans guys come?

Sure (they have before), so long as you’re into anal fisting.  You will probably want to disclose that you are trans with any play partner, of course, but you know the best ways to handle that.

Can you put me in touch with someone who was at a party I attended?

Of course, just let me know who.   I will pass your contact info on to them.

Is it only fisting?

Fisting is the primary focus, but these parties have seen ample sucking and fucking, and a certain amount of CBT, flogging, bondage, and so forth in the mix.

Do I have to play?

If you don’t want to actually engage in fisting, don’t attend.  This is not a party for voyeurs.

Anyone who comes should at least be hoping/planning to play, but it’s not like we are going to tie you down and force you to play.  (Although some of you might like that!)  You might find that no one is at the party whom you want to play with.  But no one should come planning to not play. 

What is provided?

Fisting lube (Crisco, sometimes other options)
Gloves and rubbers
Paper towels in case you get all greasy (we hope so!)
Clean up supplies (Dawn, foaming soap, etc.)
Cloth towels if you need a quick shower
Shower shot hookups for touch-ups (bring your own nozzle)

Beverages: assorted water, soda, and beer options, and we often have vodka slushies provided by Bill U.

Food: an assortment of chips, crackers, cookies, fruit, nuts, cheese, and other such noshy snacks.   Enough to get you through the evening, recharging a little between sessions.

What are the play spaces?

The usual setup includes two slings, a sling board, a fisting bench, and a low-rioder sling dowstairs, and two more slings and a ruberr-covered futon upstairs.

When the weather is warm and dry enough, an additional play spce on the deck, for quiet play only.   When the weather isn't very nice, you can sit on the deck and enjoy the outdoor heater and fire table while you socialize or smoke.

There will be stations upstairs and downstairs with lube, gloves, etc.    And fisting porn on TVs downstairs.

I haven’t really done much assplay before, and never full fisting.  Can I come?

This is not a party intended for newbies.

If you generally know what you are doing and are well on your way to giving or taking your first fist though, yes.    Most of the guys have years of practice, but there are often guys who are still learning the fisting ropes.

There have been both top and bottom “fisting cherries” lost at these parties.

How should I prepare ahead of time?

For everyone, the usual good hygeiene, good hydration, some amount of food to avoid blood sugar issues, etc.

If you are going to top, trim your nails.

If you are going to bottom, clean out ahead of time.  Bring a spare nozzle in case you end up needing to touch up, but cleaning out needs to be done ahead of time as there is only so much water available.  (If you don’t know what to do for cleaning out, you probably aren’t ready for this party.  Email us with questions about this, though, and we can advise: redhanky@soundskinky.com.) 

What is the dress code?  Do I have to get naked?

Wear whatever you are comfortable in, more or less.  Some guys willl go naked, some will keep a jock or boxers on, some may wear more than that.  Leather and gear (including boots) are always appropriate.  Don’t wear anything that you don’t want to risk getting lube on. 

(Note that the location is in a residential nieghborhood, so please arrive and depart dressed appropriately.  Leather and gear without your bits hanging out is fine.)

There will be a space and bags to stash your clothes.  It is unmonitored (although people will be in, out, and around the room all the time), so you may want to leave your valuables in your car or at home.

What about safer sex?

Gloves will be available.   Gloves do more that protect against STIs, they also cover scratched hands, rough fingernail edges, and they generally make cleanup after your session a lot easier.  We generally recommend that you use gloves, if only to make clean up that much easier, but we do not require them.  We assume you are a consenting adult and will discuss safer sex needs and desires with those you play with at the party.

Be sure to wash well between sessions regardless of glove usage, including above any lube line on your arms, so that you don't share lube from one partner to the next.

If you are HIV-positive, please remain current on your meds.  If you are HIV-negative, we highly recommend getting on PrEP (Truvada, Descovy).   Contact your health care provider, insurance usually covers it.   Rubbers will be available for those who need them.

DoxyPEP is also something to include in your repertoire, regardless of your HIV status, to reduce the incidence of other STIs,   Again, talk to you health care provider.

Can you do a special party on a date I will be in town?

Maybe.  A couple of the party dates are pre-set and won’t be moved.  Others are somewhat flexible, based on the schedules of the hosts.  And sometimes we can throw in an extra party in between regular ones.  But the earlier you can request, the more likely it can occur.

Why are the parties always on a Saturday night?

We know that everyone isn’t available Saturday nights.  Some guys have to work then, and others may want to go to the theatre, to the bar, etc.

For a good sex party, you want it to last several hours — Menagerie parties run 8 pm to 1 am (or so, until the last pig is done).  Since most attendees (and the hosts!) work weekdays, weekday and Sunday nights don’t allow for that duration.  Setup for the parties takes a few hours — cleaning, shopping, moving equipment, hanging slings, etc. — and that makes Friday nights difficult, as does rampipng down from the work week and up for kinky play.  Clean up also takes a few hours.  Which leaves Saturday afternoon, Saturday evening, and Sunday afternoon.  Evening parties tend to be better attended.

Sometimes when there is a Monday holiday, we do a Sunday evening party.

Can you do a Menagerie party in another city?

We have done smaller parties in Vancouver and Portland.  Since we have several portable slings, we can bring a lot of equipment with us.  The challenge is that we need a suitable space to host a party.

Got a space with enough room and bathrooms for touch-ups, and want us to bring the play furniture and invites?   Let’s talk.

Do you ever do smaller parties?

Depends on that you mean by “smaller” —  6 men?  16 men?  We know not everyone is comfortable in larger groups, but the aim of the Menagerie parties is to have enough guys on hand (ahem) that you can't get around to playing with everyone you want to 

We have done a few parties where one or more of the usual spaces were not set up, cutting the potential attendance by 1/3 to 1/2.  These are not common, though.

Can I smoke at the party?  Can I smoke pot at the party?

Yes, but only outside on the deck, please.   If play is going on outside, you might want to wait until they are done.

No PnP or other illegal drug use — don’t bring it, don’t arrive on it, and don't leave to get it.  Pot and poppers and alcohol are fine (in moderation; know your limits).

Anything else?

We have two resident cats.  Sometimes they hang around and socialize, but often you won't see them at all.  Take your allergy meds if you need them.